Opposites Attract

I often tell my wife that she definitely isn’t the person I thought I was going to marry.

I know that sounds crazy rude and a bit sad, but it’s not meant to be in any way! The way I see it, what I thought I was going to love and need in my married life ended up being complete nonsense! My wife ended up being everything I didn’t know that I needed and completely different from who I thought I wanted to spend the rest of eternity with, but here we are nonetheless.

To sum it up, have you ever heard of the Myers-Brigg’s personality test thingy? If you haven’t, then I don’t blame you because I never knew what it was before meeting my wife. However, her and her sister LOVE to talk about it. The second they found out that I had no idea what it was, they immediately made me take this test to find out what personality type I am. It was fun and interesting to say the least. All it is is a test to see what category your personality falls into. I think there’s like…16 types or something? I don’t know, I hear more than 16 voices in my head at any given minute so I feel like there should be more, but I digress.

Long story short, I am what is called an INFP, and my wife is what’s called an ESTJ. What does that jumble of letters mean? I actually have no idea, but what I do know is that it basically means I’m and emotional and sensitive introvert while my wife is an opinionated extrovert who isn’t afraid to speak her mind.

If the problem isn’t very clear here, let me paint his picture for you: I’m sensitive and prone to take things VERY personally while she has strong opinions about almost everything and isn’t afraid to speak her mind. Funny thing is though this hasn’t really caused problems in our marriage. I mean, sure, at first there was some adjustment, but what marriage doesn’t take adjustment? She had to get used to censoring her words before they left her mouth, and I had to try and not take everything she said personally…er…so far she’s been better at her end than me…

Funny thing is, in general, this has worked out for us pretty well! My wife has so many opinions about every day things and I have…like none…so I am perfectly happy letting her have her way with things such as what kind of silverware fits our household the best. On contrast, I’m there to remind her to relax and to wind down for a snuggle ever so often which she needs or else she will literally work herself to death.

And she’s only really good at censoring herself for me which is kind of romantic in a way. You know who else is an INFP in her life? Her sister. Yup! She basically married her sister! We are both so similar at times that it’s scary. Try and wrap your brain around that. Want to know who she has no quarrels with speaking her uncensored mind to? Her sister. Fine example: her sister comes around her and perhaps not smells the freshest. Wife’s response: “Holy crap dude, when’s the last time you took a shower!” Her sister then proceeds to cry, wife has no idea what she did wrong, I have to explain to her that this was perhaps not the most tactful approach to the situation. That being said, I cannot recall a single time my wife has said that I’m stinky, unkempt, or anything like that. She’s much better at this marriage thing than I am I think.

That being said, I am better at the emotional lovey dovey stuff than she is, so I guess it’s a give and take. Sometimes the person who makes you the happiest is the person who you thought would absolutely make you miserable if you were with a person like them…if that makes any sense.

At any rate, that’ll wrap up this little tirade about personality traits. Anyone else take this stupid personality test thing? What did you guys get? Any other INFPs out there who want to talk about how painful social interactions are? Let me know down below. So, until next time folks: stay classy, stay safe, and, above all else,

Stay grumpy.